When Your Vagina Is Getting More Attention Than Your Central Nervous System

Let’s call it what it is: we’re living in a world where our vaginas are getting more attention than our brainstems.

Somewhere along the way, "self-care" became synonymous with tweakments, filters, and £200 serums — while your central nervous system (you know, the thing running your entire body) is left to fend for itself.

Quick refresher: your central nervous system is like mission control. It’s your brain and spinal cord — the backstage crew making sure you can breathe, sleep, digest food, respond to stress, feel emotions, and generally function as a human. If it’s dysregulated, you feel anxious, burnt out, disconnected, or stuck in fight-or-flight mode — no matter how flawless your skin looks.

The other day, a friend told me about a woman who spent £7,400 on a 'designer vagina'.

What!?

 I was stunned.

But after looking into it, turns out she’s not the only one. A student featured on The Price of Perfection shared that she also spent £3,000 on the same procedure.

 Not for health reasons. 

Not for comfort. 

Just because she "wanted it to look pretty" — and because thousands of people on TikTok had convinced her it didn’t.

Here’s what she had to say:

"I saw so many videos of people discussing vaginas that looked like mine and calling them 'roast beef flaps' and saying they were ugly. 

I read comments from guys saying their girlfriends had them and it was disgusting.

There was also discussion of what it meant to have a desirable 'innie' vagina, and an 'outie' like mine, which nobody wanted.

A lot of people were saying women with larger labia have bad-smelling vaginas because they can’t clean them properly. That one got to me even though I cleaned myself properly. I thought, 'Oh my god, am I unhygienic? Maybe I smell but I don’t know.'"

(your insecurities become theirs too)
Let's be clear:

it is entirely normal to have protruding labia minora.

 The fact that a young woman was made to feel ashamed of her anatomy based on vile, judgmental keyboard warriors is deeply troubling.

So let’s pause and ask:

 When did we lose touch with the idea that every body is uniquely perfect? 

When did we start seeking validation from filtered strangers on TikTok and Instagram? 

When did we become so insecure?

Again — this isn’t about judgement. If you want to spend your money on a perfect looking pussy, go for it. And if a procedure is done for health or comfort, absolutely — that’s your right.

But this is about awareness.

 If you feel broken, insecure, or unworthy unless you look a certain way, no amount of surgery will heal that inner wound.

 That’s not a cosmetic issue — that’s a nervous system issue. That’s belief system work.

Taking slimming jabs to drop drastic weight without addressing your relationship with food, exercise, and safety in your own body? That’s not healing — that’s distraction.

Society, it’s time to wake up.

 We’re not just tired — we’re dysregulated. 

We’re scrolling, comparing, and numbing.

We're causing unnecessary stress on our nervous systems, that when dysregulated contribute to chronic illness.

 We’re getting our lashes lifted and lips filled while ignoring the fact that we haven’t taken a full breath in weeks or honoured the body that chose us. 

The one we should choose every day — not just when it matches the latest aesthetic trend.

So here’s a radical idea: instead of pouring thousands into fixing how we look, what if we invested even a fraction of that into how we feel?

Maybe then we’d appreciate who we are — what we stand for — just a little more.

 Maybe we’d start to love ourselves as whole, flawed, fully human beings.

And to be clear: this isn’t about slamming the beauty industry. 

It’s about raising awareness of the fact that we have nine-year-olds putting their hands under UV lamps for full sets of false nails and synthetic lashes, going to primary school with a face full of make up...in the pursuit of the perfect look..?? because kids as young as that are body shaming, based on what they've seen on Youtube!

We’ve glamorised the surface and ignored the system. 

You can’t self-love your way out of nervous system dysregulation with a face mask and a glass of wine.

Sometimes what you need isn’t more perfection — it’s more regulation.

So next time you’re tempted by a new filler, ask yourself:

Do I really need a new face — or a regulated nervous system? Because the truth is: your body isn’t the problem. Your beliefs are. And those? They can be rewired.

 Gently. 

Powerfully.

 Permanently.

You don’t need to be prettier. You need to feel safe.

That’s the new sexy. That’s the glow-up no one can sell you.

💭 Start Here: Question the Beliefs Beneath It All

Before you sign up for the next “fix”, pause and ask:

• What am I really hoping this will give me?
• Who told me I needed to look like this to be loved or accepted?
• What part of me feels unworthy without external validation?
• Am I doing this for me, or to be chosen?
• What do I believe about my body — and is it even my belief?
• What would it feel like to be safe without changing anything about how I look?
• What am I distracting myself from by constantly "improving" myself?

These aren’t always comfortable to sit with — but they’re the ones that change things at the root.

The kind of change that leads to real confidence.

If this resonated, you don’t need another hack or beauty trend — you need to come home to your body.

On the 28th August at 6pm, I am holding a group  Breakthrough Breathwork Session; designed to release the idea that you are anything less than perfect, reset your nervous system, and reconnect you with your innate sense of safety and power, your unique self.

We'll be instilling new messages that worship and honor you; as. you. are.

This is deep, cellular-level transformation — not surface-level fixes.

✨ Drop me a message via the webpage/socials and i'll send you the link- experience what it’s like to feel regulated, energised, and truly at home in yourself.

Your body is ready. Are you? — let’s talk.